Focus on the Family Community: Relationships and Marriage ...

Hello ...

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I have never written in a forum like this before but I really need help. My husband and I have ben married for 10 years and do not have any children yet. My husband has been on 3 deployments with the military and and been home for about 3 months. He has had several affairs over the past few years and has now declared that he is no longer "in love" with me. He lies about everything to everyone. nothing is important to him anymore; family, character, integrity... only friends, phone and car. I have told him that we have both made mistakes in our marriage but that if we turn to God, He will help us to heal and be better than we ever imagined. He says he is tired and does not want to do this anymore.

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He has moved out and is living at his mothers house. She and I speak daily and she is ill over the choices that he is making.. but there is nothing that any of us can do but pray. He has told me that he has spoken to an attorney and that he wants to be divorced. I told him that I do not think this is right and that he should not make decisions while he is confused by another relationship. This other woman is not helping.. she knows we are married and that I do not want this. She says that she is a Christian ... but I told see how that plays out in her actions. She is divorced and went to high school with my husband. He has had a lot of disappointment with his civilian career and I think that is contributing to this a great deal.

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I have told him that based on his choices I will not continue to pay for his phone or car while he is not working. We still see each other occasionally and he comes to our home and cuts the grass, lets the dog out, and has offered to fix a problem with my car.

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I am scared and unsure of the future. I am trying to back off and let God find him but I get so impatient and just want to begin working on things .. I am sure that what I need to work on right now is me and growing my relationship with God but I feel like I am running in sand.

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Is there hope for my marriage? Please pray for us ... and any Christian advice would be greatly appreciated.

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HopingInGod

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